everyone is dealing with some darkness or loneliness or some doubt. we have the opportunity to be an element of kindness and encouragement to people. let's not forget we all have the opportunity to do that with the people in our circle as well. >> heather: i heard this tossed around a lot, a description of not being the commander in chief but taking the roll on as the comforter in chief. do you think that should be the first priority? >> he has done that. that is why i said i'm not sure words are important or he should even speak. people want to see the president is there and he can reach out to people and comfort them and be there. he listens to them that he hears them, that is what i think we wanted to see for ourselves. >> heather: what about lessons he can share from this tragedy and since his time in the oval office? >> i think that is very difficult. i'm not sure that those kinds of lessons. he is not a preacher, he is the president for him to be talking about. he is the person that is there comforting and representing the nation in his effort.